Michael J. Fox said:
“My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance, and in inverse proportion to my expectations.”
Wow. Just Wow.
My acceptance is a direct correlation to my happiness. I also agree that my expectations suck, and I should just go along for the ride and enjoy the surprises- good or not so good. Life is about the journey. Life is about finding ways to fill precious time in the best ways, so that we can make a positive impact somehow. In order to give back, you have to be free. Free to live, love, express, cherish, grow, change, adapt, reach and retract. You also have to be willing to accept that the other person or people in your life, are individuals that do not think or act just like you.
I used to think that I knew X better than he knew himself. That is the farthest from the truth. Maybe I was suckered into that belief because Stevie Nicks had a one liner about that. Who knows. What I do know, is that each person, whoever they are, are the only ones that KNOW who they are, what they feel, what they think or do not think. I do not know someone better than they know themselves. We are all complicated creatures with layers and layers similar to an onion. We cannot possibly know someone better than they know themselves.
In meditation practice the other day, I focused on accepting others totally. For who they are, totally. I focused on visualizing me talking to X, for instance, and telling his spirit that I accept him, totally. All of him. All of his quirks. All of him. I cannot change us, unless I change my thought direction. In truth, I never really tried to accept him before at all. In a pyramid chart, my expectations were at the top tier, layers and layers over my relationships (at the bottom).
In example, because I love real life stories:
I worked hard on a LARGE case for work. For MONTHS. I deliver. I deliver hard. The broker chooses to put his business elsewhere for whatever reason. My expectation is that my company will secure the business, as I have gone above and beyond for this account. Reality is tricky. Acceptance is tricky. The broker can do whatever he/she wants. Period. I expect this to go my way, then it doesn’t. Okay. I can either get pissed, write off the broker, sulk and freak out about the state of my position. Or I can act with grace and remain the bad ass professional that I am. My expectations were not met, frankly I was used. I am choosing to treat the broker like the million bucks they are, continue to work as hard regardless of whether the business is there or not, and smile. I find solace that I can and did deliver. I can only control me and my emotions. That’s it. Pretty darn simple. I accept that. Now, who is to say that this said broker won’t put another large opportunity on my plate as a result of my total support and acceptance of his choice for his client, my acceptance that I did what I was charged to do, and that the Universe has something else in mind.
H.Ryan’s mind is shifting, and I love it. I feel comfortable in the unknown, because the Universe has my back. X, my Alcoholism, work, my family- all of that, as long as I stay sober and try to do the best I can with what I have.
Live free if you can.